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Avoiding Divorce

Divorce is not unusual to these days. A common belief is that fifty percent of married couples end up in divorce. Before 1970, divorce was difficult to get. The fault was usually required that one of the spouses must have committed a crime or sin that justified the divorce. There needed to be adultery, abandonment, cruelty, intoxication or some other reason that made it necessary to end the marriage. Nowadays, couples can file a No-Fault Divorce. A person does not need to prove the wrong of another. They could simply say that the marriage had broken down.

The top six reasons why divorce happens:

  • Disagreements about money
  • Infidelity or Adultery
  • Lack of commitment
  • Marrying at a young age
  • Too many unfulfilled expectations
  • Complicated conflicts that remain unsolved

To prevent divorce, couples should discuss certain issues with each other.

  1. Ask about previous Relationships. The statement speaks for itself. Ask your partner if he or she was married. If yes, ask if he or she is now legally divorced. Find proof of the separation. Look for the annulment or divorce papers. You would not want to know this late. As your new relationship begins, it is important that your lover does not have any ties from the past.
  2. Marriage Planning. Talk about you and your lover’s ideal marriage, including its setting, theme and invited guests. Know if the marriage can coincide with career goals. As humans, we dream big and aim high. These ambitions take time to achieve. Some goals tend to fade due to marriage and this can upset a person. Find a partner who is understanding and will help you achieve your dreams as your relationship goes on.
  3. Budget Management. Plan how you and your partner can save money. Foresee needed expenses and save for it. Money matters because of the expectations that come with it, and because of the way it dictates not only what you can do with your life, but what your limitations are as a couple.
  4. Financial History. Worst case scenario, you and your lover have already gone out for a long time. You then suddenly find out that he or she is buried in a pile of debt. This situation is hard to deal with. This will not only compromise your budget but your relationship altogether.
  5. Financial Duties. Money is problematic enough when you’re single and alone, but put in another person and things will start to get complicated. Love might, indeed, conquer all, but love still needs a roof over its head, and probably also doesn’t want to have awkward conversations about financing a romantic getaway. Your financial priorities become the relationship’s financial priorities.
  6. Family Planning. Family planning is very important in building a happy family. It is a preparation for responsible parenthood. Couples should plan the number of children they can support and take care of well. Partners should consider family planning to space pregnancies and limit family size.
  7. Future Planning. Pension planning is the first step to know how much money will be enough for you and your family to have a prosperous life after your primary income source stops.

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