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As a father, how can I increase my chances of receiving child custody?

Now matter where you live, the family law judge—who has the ultimate say in your custody arrangement—cares about one thing above all else: creating an arrangement that will best serve the interests of your child. How parenting duties and privileges are determined ultimately depends on what the judge thinks will be best for your child. In the past, courts have favored mothers in primary custody arrangements, believing that a child's primary and most important bond is with their mother. While some people feel the courts still favor mothers, they are, in fact, obliged to act in the best interests of the children when resolving issues of child custody.

So, as a father, how can you increase your chances of getting custody? Put simply, you must be a good parent. Fathers who act as part-time parental figures are at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to custody. Fathers who only spend time with their children for special events or occasions—such as special dinners, sports outings, amusement parks, and even holidays—are often called “Disneyland dads” and considered less than ideal parenting figures.

To increase the chances of receiving substantial parenting time, you must involve yourself in the important aspects of your child's life NOW. Take part in making good decisions about your child's education, extra curricular activities, health, and welfare. While the age of your child will inevitably influence the types of activities you will share together, the following are some things you can do to be more involved in your child's life:

• Take your child to and from school, extracurricular events, doctor's appointments, friend's houses. Be reliable when you have committed to taking on this privilege.

• Make an effort to attend school, sports, plays, and other events in which your child is involved.

• Participate in parent/teacher conferences.

• Help your child with homework.

• Be a part of the ongoing activities that affect your child's life.

• Value your child's friendships by being considerate about play dates, sleepovers, and birthday parties.

It is also important to show that you are a responsible and reliable individual . While it is most crucial to demonstrate these traits in the realm of parenting, it is also important to show you are dependable and consistent in your work and personal life. Not only will these things help you gain custody of your children, they will also achieve the greatest goal of all: becoming an important part of your child's life.

For more information on best approach to child custody matters, it is wise to speak with a qualified divorce attorney with experience handling matters of custody. A divorce attorney has first-hand knowledge of what it takes to receive custody and can help protect and maximize your legal interests. Contact a divorce attorney in your area.