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There are no statistics available on how many people marry their exes, and how many of those remarriages succeed for how long. Research does indicate however that about half of first marriages, and more than 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.
Why Go Back?
Some therapists say that many people who marry young often regret not having dated around more and experienced as many partners as they would have liked to, but once they divorce reenter the dating arena, they realize that the relationship they were in wasn’t so bad.
Other couples break up after getting bored with each other or falling out of love thinking they will be happier with another spouse, but then end up missing the one they broke up with.
There are also couples that simply divorce because the rollercoaster of highs and lows is too big a bother to bear. They get back together, however, when they realize with time that they can make it work if they communicate and forgive more effectively, and get back together.
“Some people get divorced too quickly,” says William J. Doherty, Author of “Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart,” and director of the marriage and family therapy program at the University of Minnesota.
“Some people get divorced because they fall in love with somebody else and that other relationship breaks up. Some people get divorced when they are not smart enough to know that they were going through a rough patch.”
Successful the Second Time?
The couples that tend to be successful the second time around are the ones that break over something clear-cut, like a drug addiction, or an affair, according to some experts. They contend that it is easier for the couple to blame the failure of the marriage on outside circumstances, so if the drug-addicted spouse cracks the habit, the second marriage may succeed more easily.
“If it is something external like that, I think it is easier for the partners to tie their breakup to that event than if it is something less tangible like, ‘Well, I woke up today and decided I don’t really like you,’” said assistant professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Texas Tech University, James Morris.
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